What Makes a Man Cheat?
By Ali Khalid Abdullah,
Prisonersolidarity.org
June 12, 2006

There are many reasons why a man would cheat on his significant other, but they are varied and complex, and they also relate to the character of person in question.

Many men who cheat are unsure of their worth and have a need to constantly prove their own relevance. Others cheat because of a lack of good morals, or spiritual and ethical principals. While, still others cheat because they haven’t learned how to be loyal and faithful committed to a woman (regardless of how good she is to him).

If we examine the concept of cheating (of unfaithfulness and two-timing), we encounter some fundamental misplaced value judgments. That is, we see a need to conquer and conquest, which does offer a momentary sense of adequacy. But it is fleeting. In order to continue the euphoric pleasure, one has to constantly repeat the act. It is similar to the addict, who takes drugs and alcohol in excess.

Cheating is also ultimately an act of failure because, more often than not, it destroys trust, respect, loyalty, honesty, love and the moral fibers of family (i.e. husband, wife, intimate relationships, friendships, social cohesion). The cheater and the cheated both end up unhappy in the long run.

A man who feels compelled to cheat on his woman does not fully love, value, treasure or cherish her. Otherwise, he would consciously refrain from committing the act. Usually, cheating is purely as an act of sexual gratification, an act of animal lust.

Men are visual creatures as opposed to women, who are as a rule more emotionally stimulated to what moves them inwardly. So, many cheating men seek new flesh, regardless of how wholesomely good their women are. I don’t cheat because I have a different value system and a different consciousness – a consciousness that isn’t superficial or laden by an interest in physical looks, but is impressed by character, content, spiritual union, mental oneness, etc. However, I was not always this way. I grew and learned to value the feelings of a woman, and my own feelings as well.

Men and women who feel it is not an issue to cheat will never find out what true happiness is.

Revenge cheating is no better than the cheating of the initial perpetrator. Revenge cheating is nothing more than a desperate cry to get even. And to do so cheapens one’s own self-esteem. So, in my opinion, both kinds of cheating is no good.

If a woman has suffered from cheating, she needs to move forward and not to judge all men based on her past experiences. The same applies to a man. Faithful love and relationships are the hallmark principles of God, and of every religious and social standing. However, whether we choose to honor and respect as individuals is another manner.

Ali Khalid Abdullah
#148130
Mound Correctional Facility
17601 Mound Road
Detroit, MI 48212

Ali Khalid Abdullah has a Bachelor’s degree in Behavioral Science and is completing a Master’s degree in Political Science. His political and humanitarian involvements are many. Ali Khalid Abdullah has dreams of seeing the world united, without war, hunger and poverty. He wishes to contribute to making the world a better place for all inhabitants, including animals. He aspires to be a good human being and hopes to be a good husband and father one day, and to reach out to many people. He hopes that we can save our planet from global destruction and preserve a livable future for the millions of babies that are today coming into the world. He would like to see people shake up the current political stranglehold on the world’s economy, and to eradicate capitalism so that all people’s basic material means can be met. He aspires to destroy all elements of imperialism, racism, sexism, xenophobia, and acknowledges that accomplishing this will be a long struggle.

You may contact Ali Khalid Abdullah directly by writing to him at the address listed above. The following link offers tips for writing to prisoners: https://prisonersolidarity.org/TipsForWritingPrisoners.htm

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